2010 January

Just Because You Can Doesn’t Mean You Should

With the proliferation and popularity of social media, like Twitter, its easy to forget how powerful a single voice can be.  And yet, like a match, a single voice can spark a raging blaze, perhaps without ever really intending to do it.  As individuals, we often think that when we speak we’re only heard by our immediate audience.  Why edit your content when there’s so little impact? But with social media, that’s not really how it works.  And the immediacy of social – the instant ability to publish an issue to a very broad audience – just complicates the dynamic.  We edit less.  The Geek Girls like to remind folks that fact and fiction or good news and bad news travel at the same speeds in the digital realm. And, let’s face it, as humans, we’re probably more likely to complain out loud than we are to share stories about good experiences. Especially when it comes to consumer or brand or service experiences.  It’s true.  We have expectations around service.  When our experience with a brand comes off without a hitch, we probably don’t say much.  Because we expected it.  But if we have a less than easy encounter with a service provider, we are usually more prone to complain.  And we’ll complain to anyone in the immediate vicinity.  Only now, the immediate vicinity includes the web – Twitter and Facebook and wherever your profile may live.  Don’t deny it.  You know I’m right.  You do it.  But here’s a radical idea – I’d like to suggest that you pause for some reasonable amount of time before transcribing and publishing your knee jerk reaction to an unpleasant encounter.  Because giving it a little bit of time just might be the right thing to do.

I subscribe to cable and home internet services through the cable company and, for the most part, other than the occasional grumble about the high price of cable television, I rarely have a complaint about Comcast.  You may or may not be aware that recently Comcast decided to go entirely digital, which requires that all televisions without set-top control boxes get an additional adapter to receive the all-digital signal.  Comcast informed subscribers via snail mail with a letter that provided instructions around how to order the adapters.  We were given two options – logging into a website and providing a unique identifier and ordering the adapters, or calling a customer service line and speaking to a representative.  Being someone who practically lives online the web option was my obvious choice.  I headed straight for the website, filled out the required fields and provided my ID number, only to be met with an error message stating that the site was unable to process my request at that time.  I tried again, same result.  One last time, still an error message.  My initial reaction was one of frustration.  Don’t send letters out with website information that does not work!  I considered, for a split second, tweeting my frustration.  I even pulled up Tweetdeck for that very reason.  Then I had a moment of calm and decided to just pick up the phone and call Comcast for my adapters. The next day I did exactly that, and you know what happened?  I talked to a delightful human who was beyond helpful and friendly.  My customer service experience with Comcast was, ultimately, perfect.  I got all the information I needed.  The rep was friendly, warm, available, and efficient.  She made it so easy.  I got my adapters by mail just four short days later.  Done. 

It would have been so easy for me to tweet my bitterness.  To be honest, I’m not sure what stopped me.  But now, in retrospect, I’m glad I didn’t do it.  Because I realized something as a result of that series of seemingly meaningless events.  I realized that I have some responsibility in all of my brand and service interactions.  Because behind every website and call center and brand promise are people.  We can automate every single transaction.  But it doesn’t take away from the need for humanity in our relationships with these brands. Don’t get me wrong.  I think it’s perfectly ok to expect good and reliable products and services from the brand in whom we place our trust.  But there’s a difference between expecting quality and feeling entitled to instant gratification.  The web has sort of muddied these waters and as more and more of us recognize the power that the individual has in the world of consumer relationships, its hard not to have really high, even entitled, expectations. 

I think many of us have by now heard the story of Famous Mom Blogger Heather Armstrong’s dealings with Maytag.  In her case it seems clear that she attempted to resolve the situation via traditional channels before she resorted to inciting the masses following her on Twitter to take up her cause.  But it does illustrate just how powerful these channels can be.  No, not all of us are Dooce.  But by tapping into the power of social media we all have access to much broader and much more distributed networks of people.  The potential for reputation damage goes far beyond your immediate gripe over the fence in the backyard. 

Those of us in the service business are generally just trying to do good and honest work.  The problem with being human is, sometimes you just fall down.  As consumers of goods and services AND social media I’d like to see us all practice a little humanity and recognize our own responsibility in all of our relationships.  In my case, I just picked up the phone.  It was really that simple.  A little patience and effort on my part was rewarded with exactly what I should have expected — excellent service.

iPad Leakage

There’s a lot of chatter about the iPad today, and not just about its features. Many people are commenting on, and joking about, the name (iTampon is currently a trending topic on Twitter). For 50% of us, the word “pad” means something other than a notebook.

Upon hearing the name, I tweeted: “I refuse to say iPad; sounds like a feminine product. I’m calling it iTab. So there, Jobs!”

Most women in my Twitter stream were either tweeting something similar, or giving me the “Amen, sister.” Meanwhile, comments like this started cropping up from the dudes:

  • seem to be the only one who’s not shocked/grossed out by the name and will go as far as to say it was the only real choice. –@rett
  • sorry, women, you don’t own the word “pad”. – @lolife

It’s not surprising that many (if not most) men are baffled about why anyone would be weirded out by the name iPad. It makes sense because they’ve never (I hope) used a pad and they don’t have any associations with that word. Sadly, I’m having no luck thinking up a parallel product name that men might think was odd but that women wouldn’t care about. (iJockstrap? Nah. iNutpunch? Uh, no. iMorningwood? Hrm.)

So, let’s be clear: is the name iPad going to prevent me from buying this product? No. But it does tell me that it’s unlikely that any women were involved in the naming of this product. (My other favorite example of a product name I’m pretty sure no women weighed in on: the Ford Probe.)

Tellingly, Apple’s promotional video for the iPad contains not. one. woman. It features interviews with the men who developed it, and action shots of male hand models using it. I don’t know, maybe it was hard to find women willing to star in a film called iPad. (I can’t imagine why.)

So, here’s the deal: I’m not offended. I just think it’s interesting that Apple picked a loaded (for women) term for their new product, and it’s strange that they couldn’t be bothered to show even ONE woman using it. And yet, we (and our wallets) will be crucial to its success. But, hell, for all I know this was all intentional. The folks at Apple are no fools when it comes to marketing, and in an “any publicity is good publicity” world, Apple is crushing it today.

All of this just reminds me of how much I’m looking forward to the day when there are more women involved in the development and creation of tech products. After all, we’re already buying and using them at nearly the same rate as our male counterparts.

Social Media Reading List: 4 Essential Titles

Geeky reader Myrna in Minneapolis wrote in to ask, “Do you have any recommendations on the latest books on social media/networking?”

There are a lot of books out there on the business applications of social media, but here are a few of my favorites (in the order I think you should read them):

The Cluetrain Manifesto

The Cluetrain Manifesto is such an old standard that it’s almost a cliche to recommend it, but I’m going to anyway. Mainly because, while many people will name-check this book to prove their cred — not many have actually read it. You don’t even have to buy it (though I think it’s worth the money if you like old-fashioned books like I do); you can read the whole thing online for free.

Check this quote from the book’s homepage, “A powerful global conversation has begun. Through the Internet, people are discovering and inventing new ways to share relevant knowledge with blinding speed. As a direct result, markets are getting smarter—and getting smarter faster than most companies.”

Those words were written in 1999. Those of us who were building sites back then thought of the web as being social, but no one had invented the words “social media” yet. (Everyone was too busy hyping and over-valuing e-commerce.) Thankfully, though, the dot-bomb era left us with miles of fiber to connect us. And now the tools, hardware and connection speeds have evolved to the point where a huge number of us are connecting with each other and companies are being forced to pay attention. What previously was the realm of dorks is now home to millions, and what these guys were saying then is now truer than ever.

They laid the groundwork for today’s thinking with phrases like “markets are conversations” and “hyperlinks subvert hierarchy.” If you think you have any groundbreaking ideas about social media, these guys probably already thought it up first. Read it and weep.

(Seriously, read even just the first page of cluetrain.com and you’ll probably fall out of your chair.)

Here Comes Everybody

Here Comes Everybody: The Power of Organizing Without Organizations is my favorite social media book because Clay Shirky covers, in a fast and entertaining read, the cultural and personal changes that are happening without worrying about the tactics of how to apply it for business (which is exactly the right place to start). This book is essential for shifting into what I call the “social media mindset.” There are still a large number of people who mistake social media as being about broadcasting everything we’re doing. Oversharing. Lifestreaming. But when you think about social networks as utilities that connect people, you begin to see that it’s about the human desire to connect and to be recognized and appreciated. It’s about making what was invisible, visible.

Every wiki and community site has a resident expert. That person has always existed, but now they are visible. That’s powerful. I can now influence what someone I don’t know may buy on Amazon because I shared my experience and opinion. Every day, people I don’t know influence what I buy on Amazon, iTunes, and countless other sites with their opinions.

We’ve always talked to our friends and acquaintances about companies and products and events, but now those conversations are visible. It gives us, as consumers and citizens, a new kind of power to communicate and organize. It gives companies the ability to listen and, if they’re smart, to respond. It gives both sides the ability to collaborate to create better products and services.

Importantly, this book will also help you understand a critical element to maintaining social media sanity. The idea that “they’re not talking to you.” In a nutshell, Shirky makes the point that just because all of this content is visible, doesn’t mean that it is directed at us. As humans, this is difficult to adjust to because we are accustomed to receiving messages that are meant for us: mail is addressed to us, TV and print ads are targeted to people like us. Now we’re bombarded with, or can stumble across, all kinds of messages that are not meant for us.

Think about any movie or book where the main character gains the ability to listen to people’s thoughts. There is first euphoria at thie ability to hear all this information, directly followed by borderline insanity at an inablity to silence all the “voices,” and usually culminates with some nice middle ground where the character figures out how to not listen to everyone all the time but rather to pick and choose when and what to listen to to get the most benefit. Most of us (and most companies) are currently in the insanity portion of this cycle. Shirky’s book will help move you toward your happy place.

Groundswell

Groundswell: Winning in a World Transformed by Social Technologies is the reigning standard “social media for business” book, and for good reason. While best-suited for large companies with bigger budgets, companies of any size can benefit from the general knowledge. Lots of good content in here, including the brilliant social technographics profiles.

Too often, people look at social media as an amorphous blob; technographics profiles help one understand how one’s audiences may be likely to interact socially (are they more likely to read a blog? rate products? join a network?). Understanding how your audiences want to participate will help you focus on appropriate social channels and maximize participation (and return on investment).

Friends with Benefits

Friends with Benefits: A Social Media Marketing Handbook is a new, but great-so-far (I’m not quite done with it!), guide to the world of social media and how to get started. Very tactical and hands-on (which is why I think it’s good to read Here Comes Everybody first, so you really have a grasp of the “So what?” before diving into the “How can I do it?”).

Fantastic for smaller companies who want a more DIY approach (where Groundswell will suggest large software providers or agencies, Darren Barefoot and Julie Szabo will tell you how to do it yourself), it’s well-written and engaging. It’s clear that the authors have been active participants in the web since long before the social media buzzfest began.

It’s a handbook in the truest sense of the word. But, while a new social media handbook or how-to guide seems to be printed every week, none equals this one in depth, breadth and clarity. Even for web veterans, the book contains thought-provoking ideas on how to tweak or improve what you’re doing now. My copy is heavily dog-eared with things I need to return to for more thinking, or to share with clients or co-workers.

That’s All, Folks!

There are a ba-jillion other social media books out there, and I’ve read (or at least skimmed through) most of them. With the exception of the four listed above, I think most of them can be skipped. Do you disagree? Can you think of other excellent books I’ve missed? Let me know!

Geek Chic of the Week: Kid-Friendly iPhone Apps

My love affair with my iPhone is well-documented. And while it is capable of many amazing things, there is one feature that is utterly priceless: the ability to entertain my children. Like when I’m stuck in a pharmacy waiting for a long time with nothing to occupy my 1-year-old. Or our order at a restaurant is taking an ungodly amount of time to arrive and my 4-year-old starts getting punky. iPhone to the rescue!

Here’s a rundown of some of my recent downloads — some good, some…less so. Please share your own favorites (and disappointments) in the comments!

Tip: put all the kiddie apps on one (or two) screens so your kids know to go to “their” screen only and not touch any of your apps.

 

Baby Flash Cards (Free)

I’m not fooling myself into thinking my kid is actually learning anything, but the cards are really cute and all one needs to do to get a new card is tap the screen. This is endless fun for my 1YO son. And nothing is cuter to strangers than watching a baby seemingly use an iPhone. BABY GENIUS! I bask in that faux glow as much as possible.
Rating: Two thumbs up

iStoryTime ($0.99-1.99)

Disclosure: iStoryTime gave me free download codes so I could check these out.

Each story from iStoryTime is a separate app. I’ve got Binky the Elephant and The Reading Bug. My 4-year-old LOVES these. At her age, we put the stories on “automatic page turn” mode, and the story plays itself to the end. We also have it set to child narrator, and the kid’s voice is really endearing. The stories are written and illustrated by amateurs (or at least, they seem to be). So, the stories seem a little unpolished and, to my eyes, some of the drawings are not great. I’m also bothered that — in both stories — I’ve discovered typos/grammatical errors. Which, for an app that bills itself as “educational” seems pretty egregious. That being said, did I mention my kid LOVES these? (I did share my typos with the company who was very responsive; I assume they are in the process of correcting them.)
Rating: One thumb up

Jirbo Match ($0.99)

It’s exactly what it sounds like: the old card-flipping Memory game. My 4-year-old and her friends love to play this game on my phone. My only gripe with this one is that — because I have the free version (which seems to not be available anymore?) — my daughter has accidentally clicked on the ads while playing the game.
Rating: Two thumbs up

Disney.com (Free)

I found the Disney app disappointing. It might be that my daughter is too young for it; there’s not much for her to do and many of the characters are from tween shows that we don’t watch. But, even the cartoon character interactions are rather underwhelming. We tried to get Goofy to “talk” to us but the first step is to enter your kid’s name. The app kept giving me a message that the character couldn’t say that name. Granted, my kid has a unique name but it wouldn’t even say MY name (and Meghan is hardly exotic). We finally had luck getting Goofy to say my husband’s name.
Rating: No thumbs

Pickin’ Time ($1.99)

So cute! This IconFactory app has adorable graphics and music and is addictive even for adults. I prefer the single player version to the multiplayer, but both are fun. Connecting multiple phones for multiplayer play was a little tricky at first (you have to enable bluetooth which wasn’t immediately apparent to me) but once we did that, my daughter and I played this in the car: she in her carseat with her dad’s phone and me in the front seat with my phone. Geek-alicious!
Rating: Two thumbs up

iDoodle2 lite (Free)

On car trips, my daughter can sometimes be occupied by drawing with this app. It’s very basic, but at 4 it’s enough for her to be able to draw lines with her fingers. She sometimes gets stuck trying to figure out how to change background colors or “pen” colors but overall it’s good.
Rating: Two thumbs up

Photos (Native app)

Never underestimate how long kids (and some grownups) can be occupied looking at pictures of themselves! I sync the photo albums on my phone with iPhoto every once in a while to keep the selection fresh.
Rating: Two thumbs up

eliasABC and eliasZOO (Free)

Both super cute apps that are easy to use. My 1YO loves the animal one especially. A slide of the finger moves to a new card, a tap gets the animal to make a noise. Same interactions give you a new letter and tell you the letter on the ABC app. I got these during a limited-time free offer (keep an eye on app review sites for those!).
Rating: Two thumbs up

Feed Me! (Free)

Got this one for free from the same offer mentioned above. The iTunes reviewer known as Nephster got it right when he complained that this app goes from baby-easy to grade-school hard with no warning, “The child that is engaged with identifying colors is a long, long way from being able to recognize fractions”. So, it’s one you need to be ready to help out with. That being said, my 4YO enjoys it — she loves the monster’s “wrong answer” face so much that she sometimes gets it wrong on purpose just to see him stick out his tongue.
Rating: One thumb up

Tic Tac Touch (Free)

Never underestimate the power of the simplest games. This can keep my 4YO busy for extended periods of time; she loves to play against the computer or against one of her parents. Same as with Memory Match, the only danger with this one is that — because it’s the free version — we’ve experienced accidental ad clickage.
Rating: Two thumbs up

Do you have favorite kiddie apps? Do tell. And remember, the free-er the better. I’m a cheap-ass.

Podcast #7: Social Media & Personal Safety

For our seventh podcast we invited Geek Girls Guide reader Alexis Bell over to talk about some concerns her family members had with her jumping into the world of social media.

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Recap

Alexis (@alexisjbell) sent us an email and said:

“My parents have become very concerned that on my Twitter account I have my picture and my real name. One night I tweeted that I was going to the MIMA holiday party and that concerned them because A) someone could rob me knowing that my house is unoccupied or B) stalk me. I realize their concerns are real and that they are just worried about me but I haven’t figured out how to ease their minds yet.

So I guess my question has to do with personal safety and security while posting information about what you are doing and where you are going. With Facebook I know who everyone is ‘In Real Life’, but with Twitter I don’t yet know any of these people. Some I’m hoping to know/meet in the future with regards to social media and web design. I know that approving everyone that follows you is an option but I don’t see that as a solution if I’m trying to get into social media.”

We talked about:

  • Generational differences between what we are used to sharing, and having public
  • The insidious danger of danger – a brilliant post by Tara Hunt (@missrogue)
  • Sharing information sensibly; be aware of what you’re sharing in any network you’re participating in.
  • Ways to demonstrate why it’s important for a modern professional to be creating content about themselves that is indexed by search engines.

The bottom line in this whole conversation is that it would be a mistake to miss out on the personal and professional opportunities to connect with people in social channels out of fear. Be smart, but don’t be afraid.

Join in the Discussion

What do you think? Are you avoiding social media because you’re concerned about safety or do you brazenly share all?

Remembering The Golden Rule

Everyone learns the Golden Rule at some point in their childhood.  You know it – treat others the way you’d want to be treated.  Or, simply put, treat people with consideration.  It’s one of those basic human values that is shared by Christians, Buddhists, Muslims and Humanists.  The Golden Rule is one of ethics and humanity, more than anything else.  We need to choose, every day, to be decent to one another.  And, surprisingly, it’s not always so easy to do.  Being human is just hard.  These days, with business and information moving at the speed of sound, and everyone trying to keep up with the Joneses or bubble up or be remarkable or be a ‘thought leader’ humanity takes even more of a back seat. Most of the time, that’s really not the intent. Social Media can be a channel for self promotion.  And when we’re too self-focused we lose site of each other and, by extension, we lose sight of that Golden Rule. 

Over the holiday my house was bustling with family and festivities.  My sister (who has no idea I’m using her for this post and hopefully she won’t care) stayed with us to celebrate Christmas.  We were busy – a big family gathering on Christmas Eve.  Friends in town and staying over with us for Christmas morning.  My three-year-old was enjoying the first Christmas where he really embraced the magic of Santa Claus.  The last thing I was thinking about was what sorts of images of me might end up on the Internet.  I was wrapping up work, and cleaning my house, and preparing hor d’oeuvres and doing last minute shopping and, you name it – it was on my list.  By the time Christmas morning rolled around I was breathing a sigh of relief at the prospect of a nap.  Now, I don’t know about you, but I do not sleep in what one would refer to as high fashion.  In fact, I’ll admit it, my night-time wardrobe has been sorely neglected over the years and most every morning, when I come plodding out of my bedroom sporting a brilliant case of bedhead and some misguided combination of sweatpants and a t-shirt, I look positively homeless.  Christmas morning was no exception.  I played spectator to my son and the Christmas motherlode.  I completely missed the fact that I was a passive participant in a series of photographs capturing his excitement.  There I was looking like a bloated, homeless whale – laying on the couch or curled up on the floor or all contorted for some crazy task with ‘some assembly required’.  My sister, whom I adore, was capturing every precious moment of my baby’s magical morning.  Unfortunately, my butt was the backdrop for a good number of those moments and I had no idea.  No idea, that is, until my butt showed up on Facebook. 

Facebook, the basement-home-movies-and-instantaneous-scrapbook all rolled into one.  Instead of inviting your friends over to bore them with your latest adventure as you project your vacation slides on your paneled rec-room wall, just share your family fun on Facebook and they can comment and ‘Like’ your life from anywhere, right this instant, and forever.  Somewhere between brunch and my long winter’s nap on Christmas Day I logged into Facebook to kill some time and was immediately notified that my sister had posted some pictures.  My heart raced as I quickly reviewed her recently uploaded collection.  Granted, I wasn’t the focal point of any of those photos.  But, it could not be denied, that there I was, looking about as comfortable and unkempt as a person ever should, right smack dap in the middle of my sister’s ‘wall’.  I thought very seriously about the correct response to this issue.  On the one hand, they were not my pictures and my sister can take and post whatever she wants on her Facebook page.  But on the other hand, about 25 of her friends are my ‘friends’ and I wasn’t entirely comfortable with anyone, save my immediate family, seeing me in such a state.  It’s an interesting dilemma when you think about it.  Social Media only works when the intent and the content is authentic.  One could argue that my desire to remove pictures of myself looking terrifying is not exactly authentic.  But I also need to feel safe in my own house.  I need to know I can roam around in my underwear and not have to worry about it showing up on the world wide web by nightfall.  Who is deciding how these things work?  We are.  And, quite honestly, there’s nothing all that digital or ‘new’ about it.  When thinking about how best to be ‘social’ in the Social Media sphere, remember the Golden Rule.  Treat others the way you would like to be treated.  Show them some consideration. 

Now, I’m not suggesting my sis had any ill intentions in posting those photos.  I think she simply wanted to share the images of her sweet nephew’s holiday excitement.  But without my consent, or prior review, she was sharing much more than that.  You see the moral dilemma?  What right did I have to ask her to edit what she wanted to share with her network?  The problem was, once the content was tagged, it was shareable outside of her network.  And I have no idea what her privacy settings look like.  Bottom line – I was not comfortable with it.  It wasn’t about oversharing – it was about my level of comfort with what was being shared.  The Geek Girls have said time and time again, behind every picture is the human that took it and posted it.  If you don’t like the picture talk to the human.  I mean, come on.  In this new era of immediacy in communication – we have to all commit to being reasonable when publishing content to what is really a GLOBAL network.  But I say we should go a step further and, as creators of content, we need to apply the Golden Rule.  We need to be sensitive to and considerate of others first.  Ask before you post if there is anything that could be even slightly compromising.  I don’t think that asking for a little kindness is really asking for all that much.  In fact, that is exactly what I asked of my sister — I asked her to be kind to me in re-reviewing those pictures.  In the end, she was more than kind and for that I am grateful.

Go ahead – post your pictures, share your videos – put it all out there.  But before you hit ‘submit’ – remember the moral of this story – remember the Golden Rule.  Be kind to each other.